marriage help please

[gloryer]

I just found my grandfathers sisters husbands;) death in cwgc but it seems she didnt let the grass grow under her feet. Looks like she had already remarried before his memorial.
But I cant find the marriage.
Arthur William SELFE married Elsie Doris SMITH 1916 Dartford Kent. He died 20 Nov 1917 but it says she is Mrs E D GLADDISH formerly SELFE. I already have the GLADDISH family in my tree so wondering who when and where she remarried. CAnt find it on freebmd.

[Kate P]

Interesting. There is an Elsie D Selfe marrying a William W Gladdish in the June qtr of 1920 in Dartford, Kent. But nothing earlier...

So I wonder if she'd been living with him as man & wife but they only got round to marrying later on. An intriguing little piece to follow, why wait if husband no1 was already dead?

ETA: I found this through Ancestry. It's doesn't come up under Selfe on freebmd because the transcriber couldn't read the entry - it's listed as S[eo]lfe.

[Night Owl]

I have a couple of these where the widow is shown as a different surname. I think it took several years for all the details to be collated and the headstones etc. to be placed, by which time the widow may well have remarried.

[gloryer]

thank you for finding that for me. I was just wondering how soon after he died was the memorial erected. I suppose there was time to remarry, or as you say they may have been living together as man and wife.

[Kate P]

I storngly suspect that nightowl has it. It would be nice to check with cwgc to see if they know exactly when his memorial was erected, that should help considerably.

[Uncle John]

I have one where the CWGC record is dated 1923. The soldier died in 1916, not long after the marriage, and the widow remarried about 1920.

[Christine in Herts]

There seem to have been three C of E churches in Dartford conducting marriages at the time - St Alban's, Christ Church and Holy Trinity. The wedding doesn't seem to have been at any of them. I looked here http://cityark.medway.gov.uk/, but could have missed it, I suppose.

Christine

[gloryer]

yes I did do a search of some of those as well. Its the same quarter that my grandmother married. Somebody said that you can tellwhich church it was by the numbers on freebmd but I can neve work it out. You would have to make a list of all the churches and marriages to be able to use that system

[gloryer]

done a few searches on line today but couldnt find it so have ordered the certificate. Curiosity killed the cat and all that. I want to see which branch of the Gladdish family she married