I looked at Deaths for Mat(t)hew Gray 1885-1910. Most are well away from London or very old (in their 80's).....except this one:
Deaths Sep 1888
Gray Matthew 25 Poplar 1c 381
Bloomin' Poplar again!! lol
Having looked at the 1881 census the best fit to be the above is 17 years old and living in Lambeth. Unmarried and with his parents. There are no marriages for a Mat(t)hew Gray in the London area between 1881 and 1888.
Thanks for your efforts Merry, I will get to my friend and maybe he can resolve the discrepancy.
The witnesses where as far as I can see
1. Richard is his father
2 Sarah is his sister
Henry Matthew Gray, wife Mary Adelaide Gray, dau Eliza Maud Gray aged 12
And here's the parents marriage, which is the people your friend has!!
Marriages Dec 1877
DAINTY Mary Adelaide Lambeth 1d 808 <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
Farley Sarah Ann Lambeth 1d 808
Gray Henry Matthew Lambeth 1d 808 <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
TAYLOR William Ward Lambeth 1d 808
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