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    Can't get my head round these circumstances:D

    Haydon Thomas Aldersey marries Elizabeth Susanna Mason on 26.10.1850.

    Just a few months later, on 1851 census, he is living with his parents and apparently single ........... hmmmm!

    He remains "single" on all further censuses (can't find him in 1881)

    Elizabeth (almost) disappears off the face of the earth. Can't find her in 1851 or 1861, she reappears as a visitor in Winchester in 1871, disappears again until 1901, when she is back in Winchester, where she dies in 1909. Nowhere near Haydon on these censuses.

    In 1871 she is "married" and in 1901, she is a "widow" (Haydon Thomas died in 1893)

    Can anyone think up what was going on here? I'm guessing it wasn't the happiest marriage in the world - but even so! (There appear to be no children)
    Did Haydon Thomas not tell his parents he was married?
    If the marriage fell apart so fast that it wasn't consummated, why did Elizabeth remain "married"
    Surely they couldn't have got divorced between Oct 1850 and March 1851?

    Might be worth mentioning that I have Haydon Thomas down as a philanderer, having got my 3 x ggmother in the family way in 1849! (And refusing to take responsibility!)
    Last edited by bev&kev; 12-11-12, 20:32.

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    Before 1857 a divorce would have required an Act of Parliament, so would be easy to track down, and not really an option for the vast majority of the population.

    The only other option would be a petition for the marriage to be annulled (i.e. declared to have never been valid) ... again rare, but more common than divorce at the time.
    Last edited by AntonyM; 12-11-12, 14:44.
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    • #3
      Do you know the birthplace for each of them? I dont have a sub to ancestry but pretty good with familysearch

      Edna

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      • #4
        Thomas H Aldersey Williams 1911 census age 31 male Connors Quay, Birkenhead, Tranmere, Cheshire. he must be a relative do you think? found on FS

        Edna

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        • #5
          Thomas H Aldersey Williams 1911 census age 31 male Connors Quay, Birkenhead, Tranmere, Cheshire. he may be a relative do you think? found on FS

          name: Haydon T Aldersey
          event: Census
          event date: 1891
          gender: Male
          age: 67
          relationship to head of household: Boarder
          birthplace: Hackney, Middlesex
          record type: Household
          registration district: Kensington
          sub-district: Kensington Town
          ecclesiastical parish: St Peter
          civil parish: Kensington
          county: London, Middlesex


          name: Haydon T Aldersey
          event: Census
          event date: 1891
          gender: Male
          age: 67
          relationship to head of household: Boarder
          birthplace: Hackney, Middlesex
          record type: Household
          registration district: Kensington
          sub-district: Kensington Town
          ecclesiastical parish: St Peter
          civil parish: Kensington
          county: London, Middlesex



          name: Haydon T Aldersey
          event: Census
          event date: 1841
          gender: Male
          age: 50
          birthplace:
          record type: Household
          registration district: Edmonton
          sub-district: Cheshunt
          civil parish: Cheshunt
          county: Hertfordshire

          Not sure if these help

          Edna

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          • #6
            Hi, sorry I had to go out. Yes, Edna that's him. He was born c 1823 in Hackney; son of Haydon Stephen Aldersey - the Aldersey family were quite posh and went in for these naming patterns.

            Elizabeth was born c 1822 in Colchester, Essex, daughter of Henry/Harry Barker Mason, solicitor.

            I don't think the later Thomas H. is a direct relative, but the Aldersey family seat was in Cheshire which is most of them originate.

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            • #7
              Do you have him in the 1861 census or is it just Elizabeth you are missing
              Hayden J Alderson
              Census
              1861
              Male
              37
              Son
              Hackney, Middlesex
              Household
              Bishop Stortford
              4 Braughing
              Braughtin
              Hertfordshire

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              • #8
                Sorry about the messy post above, this looks possible for her
                Edna

                Eliza Allerton
                event: Census
                event date: 1861
                gender: Female
                age: 41
                relationship to head of household: Head
                birthplace: Colchester, Essex
                record type: Household
                registration district: St George Hanover Square
                sub-district: 2 May Fair
                ecclesiastical parish:
                civil parish: St George Hanover Square
                county: London, Middlesex

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                • #9
                  she is visiting this family in Winchester, I have named the head of household so you can check it out.
                  Edna

                  name: Elizabeth S Aldersey
                  event: Census
                  event date: 1871
                  gender: Female
                  age: 49
                  relationship to head of household: Visitor
                  birthplace: Colchester, Essex
                  record type: Household
                  registration district: Winchester
                  sub-district: Winchester
                  event parish: St Thomas
                  county: Hampshire
                  Household Gender Age Birthplace
                  self Frederick John Butler M 52 Bramdean, Hampshire

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                  • #10
                    I am only missing him 1881, I am missing her in 1851, 61, 81 and 91.

                    Sadly, I dont think that's her Edna. It's very clearly Allerton on the original and she is a widow with 2 children. Thanks anyway
                    The 1871 is definitely her.
                    Last edited by bev&kev; 12-11-12, 20:32.

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                    • #11
                      I realised after posting the 71 that you already had it, the 51 on FS does not show the area of residence only POB and very little detail but I will have another look at it all later.

                      Edna

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                      • #12
                        I would guess that the marriage was not successful for long - maybe his philandering - and they split up. He then decides to call himself single whilst she continues to describe herself as married, until he dies when she becomes a widow. As Anthony says a legal divorce is most unlikely, and the marriage was most likely consummated so she would not consider an anullment. This would account for him never remarrying.

                        The only query is how she found out that he had died. If they were not living near each other it suggests that she was in contact with someone who knew, maybe his mother?
                        People: Canton, Wiseman, Colthup, Scrace
                        Places: Pembrokeshire, Kent.

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                        • #13
                          I have just found out that he left a will - executor being a single woman who lived near him. Interesting! I might see if I can get hold of that.

                          I've also just found out that Haydon's brother lived very close to Haydon's illegitimate daughter. I'd love to know if he knew about her and had any contact ........ but it's unlikely I ever will :(

                          It also transpires that my poor hard-done-by ggmother was living less than a mile from the church where Haydon and Elizabeth married .... I wonder if she found a way to tell Elizabeth about her husband's previous indiscretion.

                          Now my imagination is going into overdrive!
                          Last edited by bev&kev; 12-11-12, 22:15.

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